Well, it is official, my third and final trimester of my third and final pregnancy has arrived.The breath of that announcement was brought to me courtesy of my “the bump” APP this morning as it shrilled to remind me to take a belly photo for the memories.
This pregnancy has been so different from my other two. My sickness has drawn out over the whole duration of my pregnancy thus far and not just in the beginning or in bits and pieces, movements are stronger and more pronounced earlier on, Braxton Hicks have taken over my life since before 20 weeks, and my in and outs of the hospital for fluids and monitoring has been a tid excessive for my liking, but despite all of that, compared to my other two pregnancies this one has flown by.
I swear it was just the other day I got my BFP (big fat positive) and here I am now rounding the corner into two of our households favorite holidays and Little Miss’ 2nd birthday which will quickly be followed by beginning the New Year, meeting our new addition, and moving on as a family of four in the home, well five if we count our four legged companion Harley.
While I feel slightly unprepared in the fact that I do not have the things purchased I would like for Belly Baby nor anything arranged in LM’s room as we prepare for the kids’ to room share, both of which leave the Type A me feeling a little scattered, I do feel strangely at ease with being in the home stretch of my pregnancy. Birth is a beautiful, albeit messy thing, and it brings with it a multitude of hormones and dynamic changes but being worked up about it is something I am not, and for that I am grateful.
As my pregnancy has progressed I have come to be at peace with whatever the remainder of this pregnancy and its birth brings. I have sat down and focused which led me to remember that I have two amazing Holidays coming up with no impending pressure of labor happening during them, unlike with my other two who were Christmas time babies. I have LM that is turning two and AB that is turning 4. I have plenty of things to focus on between now and the start of the New Year. Things that are positive and happy and beautiful. Things that I do not want to miss the beauty of because I am too busy freaking out about my pregnancy and/or birth or all the little home details that will resolve as they always do.
In order to keep these things in mind I’ve made a 3rd. Trimester goal list of sorts to remind me to focus on the NOW and take it one day at a time so as to not miss the beauty I have in front of my at this very moment in lieu of stressing about the beauty I will have in front of me in a few months.
- Make a daily to do list. Not a weekly or monthly to do list. A DAILY to do list. Focus on what needs to happen in that one day and work to get it done. Not only will that allow you to feel more accomplished, but also more focused on what is truly a priority each day.
- YOU time. Take a little bit of time every day, even 5-10 minutes and focus on yourself. You are growing a person, and it’s hard work, don’t discount that. Do something that is relaxing to you. Drink tea, read a book, take a bath, get a massage, garden, whatever relaxes you. Is it hard to have “you” time when you have other children, yes of course it is, but it isn’t impossible. It is extremely important to your health and well being that pregnant or not you take that time for yourself so that you can be the best mother and spouse you can be. No one benefits when you are stressed beyond belief, snappy, and cranky. Make “YOU” time a priority every day. Set a timer if you have to. It’s better for everyone.
- FAMILY Time. Just as “you” time is important so is family time. Take part of every day, again even if it’s just 10-15 minutes and have the whole family gather together and do something. Whether it is family prayers, a book reading, decorating for the holidays, cleaning up the house together, or taking a walk -do it together. Give yourself the time to listen about their days and communicate, regardless of if it is your children or your husband. It is easy to get wrapped up in ourselves and our needs and forget to include the family in this pregnancy wonder.
Though these 3 things seem very basic they are things that are often forgotten in day-to-day life, especially day-to-day pregnant life. Despite what our hormones may tell us at a given moment not every little thing is a crisis, the world isn’t ending, we can do this, and it will all be okay.