Being a stay at home mom (SAHM) led me to believe at first that I needed to be at home cleaning all day getting everything put together, taking perfect care of Little Miss, going to play-dates, running errands. And even though those are all things I strive to do I forgot for awhile that they aren’t the ONLY things that need to be done. I need to take care of me too.
Being in the house all day every day by myself since Sexy Czech Medic is away I found myself getting flustered quickly with LM, depressed that the house wasn’t perfect, and bored out of my mind all at the same time. I felt like a failure for not getting everything done I wanted and being unable to get my workouts in. I felt guilty for having to put LM in her swing just to be able to use the bathroom.
Then I went to a mommy class in my area. It was for help with breastfeeding and also a chance to visit with other mommy’s. It was a Godsend. It was a chance to get out of the house and yet relax at the same time. I am able to visit with a variety of moms with different aged children. LM could visit too. It was a breath of fresh air. And it was there I met other moms who were feeling the same as me; Stressed out , depressed, and inadequate.
Mommy-hood is a struggle sometimes and we need to give ourselves a breather – that breathier doesn’t always mean leaving your child somewhere separate from you though. Recently I’ve made it a priority to go to group twice a week and it has helped me to not only maintain my sanity when at home just LM and I but be more productive as well. I also took a tip from a friend and even if it is just a drive around town or a walk around the block I am making it a goal to get out of the house at least once a day. It is amazing the difference it makes.
Today at group LM played with her new friend Levi. They were ball sharing and playing with each others hand. It was priceless.
Sometimes the smallest things can make the biggest difference. For Mummy and Baby.
What things do you do when you are having a rough Mommy day? What helps? Are there groups in your area? What is one thing that always can brighten a rough day?